Saturday, January 3, 2009

Help Get my Baby to Sleep!

One mistake I have made as a Mom so far is not having my son sleep in his crib in those first few weeks. He now HATES his crib, he wont even play in there for more than a few minutes. If me or my husband are not right next to him at night he will not fall asleep. Not only does he have to sleep with us but he also wakes up several times in the middle of the night to "snack"(breastfed). We have tried the CIO method (Cry it out) but he crys so much and so long that we can never go through with it. It's just so sad to hear him and see him looking at us through those little wooden bars in his crib, he crys like we put him in jail! Its heartbreaking. If you have any advice please share!


  1. I did the same thing with my first daughter. I don't have any advice though because she is 7 and still sleeps with me! Good luck! BTW LOVE the new look!

    Mama and Hustler???
    My Mommy Chronicles

  2. Huh, we did the opposite. The first month or two, our newborn slept in a bassinet or pack n play. Then I finally realized I'd get more sleep if he was in our bed. He hasn't slept in his crib once (well, aside from one time when I set him in there to rotate laundry & came back 3 minutes later to find him asleep). However, he likes his crib. He loves watching the mobile in there go round and round, and he's loved following it since he was 2 weeks old. We put him in his crib after just about every diaper change (so we can go across the hall to wash our hands while he watches his mobile). Plus I use it for when I need to do something like rotating the laundry or getting the mail when it's freezing out or scraping ice off the car. Maybe if you tried putting him in there for short amounts of time he'd get used to it and think of it as a happy place? Does he have a mobile or projector lights or something to look at?

  3. I'm so jealous lol My son has a mobile and toys and still hates the crib. I try to put him in their to "play" but he acts uninterested :(

  4. We put our crib RIGHT next to my side of the bed for a long while and that seemed to make a big difference with both of my kids. They'll still feel close to you but then you'll still (hopefully) manage a little sleep. Eventually you can move the crib away from your bed and then eventually into another room.

  5. I would suggect, like Miranda did, that you put the crib very close to your bed. It will comfort your baby and also mean less out-of-bed time for you in the middle of the night.
    The Cry It Out method is a HORRIBLE idea. It affects a baby's physiology and emotional development in very negative ways. If you think about it, the baby just wants the comfort of your presence - he is afraid or uncomfortable in some way. So move the crib close to your bed, and being able to see you, smell you, and hear you breathing will comfort him immensely.
    I would also suggest you read this article on the CIO method:

  6. I found your blog because I'm in the same situation and gogoled "help getting my baby to sleep + baltimore". I'm looking for someone like the baby whisperer...I don't care how much she costs, I'm desperate. I hate the cry it out method but have resorted to it as well out of desperation, but it doesn't work for us either; she outcries it!

    As for the crib, we had our 4-month-old daughter in one of this Arms Reach co-sleepers when she was born. It's nice because it pushes right up next to the bed. I always put her in her crib for naps. Then around 2 1/2 months, I started putting her to sleep in her crib and we didn't have too much trouble there at first but within a couple weeks she had taken to screaming bloody murder for hours at bedtime. We start bath around 7ish, then I nurse her for at least an hour or however long she wants. When she's passed out, I lay her down but she wakes up screaming almost instantly and NOTHING makes her stop. As of late, I have given up and started bringing her into our bed to nurse herself to sleep but she doesn't even want to do that until she's screamed for a good 2-3 hours. There seems to be an amount of screaming that she needs to do before she'll calm down and no amount of comforting prior to that works....

    I read The Baby Whisperer and found it helpful, but I need her here in real life. If anyone knows of someone like that in the Baltimore, MD area, let me know please!!

  7. I think it really depends on the baby. Some would love to be in the baby crib while the others beside the parents.